Whether you’re a Team Leader, a Thought Leader or a CEO, we all experience moments of emotional overwhelm.

Sadly, in these moments, we so often abandon, numb or suppress vulnerable, valuable parts of ourselves, at the very moment when these parts of us most desperately need us to care for them.

As we find the courage to care for our overwhelmed parts, we naturally begin to relate in a healing way to ourselves and to other people.

Through committed, compassionate practice, our inner relationships deepen and we become the trusted leader of all our parts.

As our parts experiences our care, they begin to trust that things go better when we (our core, most empowered self) are in charge.

Over time, we can build a harmonious, well-resourced inner alliance.

The tricky part of course, is in the remembering.

When we are in a state of emotional overwhelm it is really easy to forget all about the fact that we have ‘parts’ and that we have a reliable practice in our toolbox to take care of our overwhelmed part.

And so, I have created a simple, brain-friendly prompt to increase the likelihood that you’ll remember that you can rescue yourself moments of overwhelm – SOS. This stands for: Sense, Open, Soothe

S – SENSE : Am I emotionally overwhelmed right now?

ASK: What am I feeling? What am I thinking?

O – OPEN SPACE : Separate from your overwhelmed part

SAY/THINK: Part of me is overwhelmed.

S – SOOTHE : Reassure your overwhelmed part

SAY/THINK: Your OK. We’re OK. It’s OK (or whatever words of reassurance that work best for you)

By learning how to take better care of all the different parts of ourselves, we learn how to take better care of all others.


Download my free overwhelm survival guide here for more details on how to rescue yourself in moments of overwhelm.


By reconnecting to our deepest selves we liberate our highest potential and serve the greatest good. That’s why I specialise in the tricky business of authentic leadership and why I’m pioneering the practice of self-fidelity. I’m a trusted guide for leaders who are ready to explore their inner worlds and rediscover their true selves. I help big-hearted leaders feel empowered to be who they need to have the impact they want to have in the world. I offer keynotes, workshops, programs, one-on-one and group coaching. Book a no-strings-attached discovery call with me here.