Over the last few years, I have been working my second book Being True.

I have written this book as a short, super-practical guide for busy, big-hearted leaders who want to feel more like themselves at work.

I am thrilled to announce that Being True is being published by Hardie Grant. We are on track for a pre-release in December and trade release (in book shops) in April 2023.

Being True shares the powerful principles and practices that support us to reconnect to our core while taking good care of our many different ‘parts’.

The more I share these practices with my coaching clients, the more I am blown-away by how they can transform the relationships we have with ourselves and others.

In thinking about the different ways leaders can apply these practices to feel more aligned with their true nature, I asked the question: What do leaders really want to feel less of at work right now? 

The answer that emerged very clearly was: We want to feel less overwhelmed. 

And so, I have developed a new ‘bonus’ evidence-based practice that combines many different elements of my upcoming book.

This practice will empower you to rescue yourself in moments of overwhelm.

Why do we get overwhelmed? When we believe that the challenges and stressors we are facing are more than we can handle, we can become overwhelmed.

Compare the feeling of being overwhelmed to being submerged after a rough wave. It’s a scary experience, you may not know which way is up or what way to swim, you may feel stunned and unable to react. You may be unable to think or act rationally or functionally and emotional overwhelm may impact your relationships or professional life.  SOURCE: TalkSpace.com

The more you apply this practice, the less time you’ll spend down in the murky, lonely depths of overwhelm with the qualities of your true nature out of your grasp.

Over time, you’ll cultivate greater confidence in your ability to stay afloat and to take good care of yourself (and all your different ‘parts’) in moments of overwhelm.

More and more, you’ll begin to trust that you can get through challenging moments without having to numb or abandon parts of yourself.

This practice is designed specifically to get us from overwhelmed to OK in six simple steps.  And I’ll be guiding you through this practice step-by-step.

So, let’s dive right in together.

How to Rescue Yourself

Step #1: How does overwhelm feel?

We all experience moments of overwhelm differently.

The first step is to become very familiar with how you feel when you are experiencing overwhelm.

To do this, get curious about how the experience of overwhelm feels in your body. What emotions, feelings and sensations are present for you in moments of overwhelm?

Here is how some of my coaching clients describe their inner experiences of overwhelm:

  • I feel excruciatingly powerless
  • I feel clamped down
  • I feel like I am drowning
  • I feel stuck
  • I feel a complete loss of hope
  • My heart starts to race
  • I feel the urge to throw something against the wall
  • My head gets foggy, I can’t think clearly
  • I feel like something is about to explode out of my chest
  • I feel like I want to cry, or have a drink (or both)
  • I feel totally alone
  • I feel like I want to run out of the house screaming

Over the next week, at work and at home do you best to pay attention to your inner experiences of overwhelm. How does being overwhelmed feel in your body?

The more familiar you become with how you experience overwhelm, the more empowered you become to rescue yourself.

Next week I will be sharing Step 2. So, stay tuned!

I would genuinely love to hear about what you discover as you begin to play with this first step of the practice. You can reach me at cassandra@self-fidelity.com.

As leaders today, we all experience moments when it all just feels like too much. Cassandra teaches a simple yet powerful practice to rescue ourselves in moments of overwhelm. It’s precise yet gentle. It works. That’s why I call Cassandra the ‘overwhelm whisperer’.
Kate Jarvis, Climate Finance Specialist

I’m convinced of two fundamental truths about human beings. The first is that we all have within us a centred place of wisdom, harmony and strength. (…) The second truth is that we’re all going to veer away from that place again and again and again. That’s the nature of life. In fact, we may be off course more often than we are on course. The question is how fast we can get back to that centred place of wisdom, harmony, and strength. It’s in that sacred place that life is transformed from struggle to grace.
Arianna Huffington