My upcoming book Being True is a guide to reconnecting to your core while taking good care of your many different ‘parts’.

In thinking about the different ways leaders can apply the principles and practices I share in Being True, I asked the question: What do leaders really want to feel less of at work right now?  The answer that emerged very clearly was: I want to feel less overwhelmed. 

And so, I have developed a new ‘bonus’ evidence-based practice that combines many different elements of my upcoming book.

This practice empowers you to get from overwhelm to OK in six simple steps.

Over the last few weeks, I have shared the first 2 steps:

Now, we’ll learn Step 3.

How to Rescue Yourself

Step #3: Separating from the part of you who is overwhelmed

Now that you’re familiar with how you feel, and the thoughts you typically think in moments of overwhelm you are ready to take the next step.

This next step is the most crucial step of the practice.

It is really easy to do, but really hard to remember.

The good news is that the more you practice this crucial step, the more often you’ll remember to call on it in moments of overwhelm.

Step 3 is simply to say to yourself “Part of me is overwhelmed.”

That’s it. That’s all.

Don’t underestimate the power of this simple statement.

By saying (or thinking) “Part of me is overwhelmed” you are empowering yourself in two important ways:

(1) You are labelling your experience of overwhelm

(2) You are separating a little from the part of you that is overwhelmed

Over the next week, at work and at home play around with using this statement in moments when it all feels like too much.

The more you practice, the more you’ll remember to label your experience of overwhelm, and separate a little from the part of you that feels overwhelmed.

Next week I will be sharing Step 4, which will help you to begin to learn more about the part of you that is overwhelmed. So, stay tuned!

I would genuinely love to hear about what you discover as you begin to play with this next step of the practice. You can reach me at cassandra@self-fidelity.com.

 

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
Viktor Frankl

When we simply turn our attention inside, we find that what we thought were random thoughts and emotions comprise a buzzing inner community that has been interacting behind the scenes throughout our lives.
Dr Richard Schwartz

As leaders today, we all experience moments when it all just feels like too much. Cassandra teaches a simple yet powerful practice to rescue ourselves in moments of overwhelm. It’s precise yet gentle. It works. That’s why I call Cassandra the ‘overwhelm whisperer’.
Kate Jarvis, Climate Finance Specialist